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Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. author. speaker. nagual.

As a Nagual (shaman), Don Miguel Ruiz Jr helps others discover optimal physical and spiritual health, so that they may achieve their own personal freedom. [www.miguelruiz.com]

The most meaningful thing to me is my happiness. What’s even more valuable to me is my ability to be happy.

Sometimes I get attached to my issues or reactions and am separated from my happiness. My father, Don Miguel Ruiz, tells us that when that happens, when we feel unhappy, first let the thought finish, because if we try to stop the thought or the reaction, it’s going to be difficult. As soon as the thought ends, do something else. Whatever’s bothering you is something. So distract yourself with something else. It’s very simple.

The main thing is to be aware of needing to do something else. Once I catch myself and realize what’s happening, I redirect my focus. There are many ways to do that. I can do it by simply looking at my kids or my wife, by going out for a run, or by singing. I do whatever I’m able to in the moment to change direction. Redirecting attention takes practice, but as time goes on it becomes easier.

The key to changing direction is to refocus attention on something that’s wanted. Otherwise, the new something will cause upset and require a need to redirect again. It’s best to choose something that’s a positive motivator, something we choose for ourselves. Doing something to appease someone else, to gain acceptance, to avoid guilt, or because we feel like we have to doesn’t focus awareness on happiness.

Everyone sees the world a little differently. People see the truth in different ways. It helps to understand that people say and do what makes sense to them based on their own perspectives. And they’re free to choose. Their life is a reflection of them. It’s only a reflection of me if I agree with it. For happiness, we choose our own perspective. An expectation of me that I don’t agree with is someone else’s perspective.

If I’m upset because I hold an expectation of what I’m supposed to be, an image of who I am that doesn’t fit, that keeps me from being happy. The moment I sacrifice my authentic self and become more interested in the persona I’ve created than in the real me, I can catch myself, redirect my focus, and find happiness.

– Don Miguel Ruiz Jr.

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