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Hollye Jacobs Hollye Jacobs medical burrito. practical patient. blogging healer.

Hollye Jacobs has been on both sides of the hospital bed. Via her blog, she's the girlfriend who tells you what to expect, holds your hand, and helps you find the silver linings of the breast cancer experience. [www.thesilverpen.com]

The absence of health sort of stops everything else in life. Very little can happen as effectively or efficiently without health.

For years, I worked as a nurse in different settings, mostly to do with hospice and palliative care. I also received three master’s degrees – in bioethics, social work, and child development. With that work experience and those degrees, I found myself in the position of being an interdisciplinary burrito, full of a little bit of everything.

In 2010, when I was transitioning back to doing clinical work after teaching for three years, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m a mostly vegan runner with no family history of cancer, so the diagnosis came out of the blue.

I didn’t panic (though I did drop a few F-bombs). The majority of the time, a cancer diagnosis is not an emergency. That’s a big thing to realize. Instead of treating it like an emergency, get your head together and get the broad perspective. In the next weeks, big clinical decisions will need to be made, but a cancer diagnosis is generally not something you have to react to today.

I coped with the initial diagnosis by putting on my clinical jacket. I said, “OK, what would I say to someone who was given this diagnosis? How would I help them?” I told myself, “Let’s look at the big picture. This is a huge bummer and it’s going to be a really, really tumultuous road; however, it can be traveled, and I know how to do it.” That was a great coping mechanism.

What really helped as I continued to face my health challenges was actively looking for silver linings. Finding silver linings didn’t take away the pain, anxiety, or sadness, but it did provide perspective and balance.

I also found myself writing a blog from the perspective of both a patient and a nurse. I wrote about what I was going through from both sides of the bed, in a way that would educate people. I also write on the blog about how to talk and be with children when someone in the family is diagnosed with a potentially life threatening illness, and how to be with a child and help them as they prepare for a death.

To help someone who’s dealing with a challenging health issue, first be present, then ask them what they need. Just ask. Take their lead. That’s simple, right?

– Hollye Jacobs

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