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Monika Zands Monika Zands relationship re-creator. self explorer. miracle believer.

After more than 12 years of consulting for multi-billion dollar businesses and receiving her Master's in Spiritual Psychology, Monika helps her clients with the strategies that can immediately improve their business and their life. [www.blueprintconsulting.net]

My husband always says to me that I’m a walking love. I walk around, and I just spread love. What provides meaning in my life, in every interaction, is the opportunity to see how I’m loving myself and how to share with others how to love themselves.

My father was very hard on himself and consequently very hard on us. He moved to the states from Europe at the age of seventeen. He always knew that it was up to him to make it or break it because there was no one he could fall back on. He constantly told me, “You can’t rely on anybody,” and “You have to do it all yourself.” I thought the only choice I had was to be in control of everything. To be right. To be the smartest.

I always felt like I was proving to my father that I was worthy of his love. I tried to be something I thought he wanted me to be. I also felt disappointed because he wasn’t what I thought my father should be. That was my projection onto him. I wasn’t giving myself what I needed. My disappointment in others directly correlated to how I was judging myself.

In my master’s program I had to create an extraordinary relationship. The teachers tell us that, to the degree that we can admit to ourselves that a miracle is possible, then such a miracle is actually possible. I thought my relationship with my father was always going to be the way it was. After a year of really looking at myself and that relationship, I saw that who he wanted to be was actually coming from a place of contribution and love. He was doing the best he could, not having parents that showed him how to be really loving. I had to come into a place of forgiveness for the things I thought I wanted him to be.

I could now actually accept that this is the way he loves me, and this is what his love looks like. I can either choose to love being loved that way or not. Now our conversations are just beautiful and very heartfelt and very deep.

If we’re good listeners and at turning things in on ourselves, asking the questions that are sometimes hard questions to ask, then we have the opportunity to make new choices, so that we can create entirely new relationships with people.

– Monika Zands

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