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Arianna Huffington Arianna Huffington political powerhouse. media mogul. author.

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real beauty

Alexis Wolfer Alexis Wolfer magazine founder. conversation sparker. inner beauty queen.

Concerned with the media focus on unrealistic body ideals, Alexis Wolfer founded the glamorous site The Beauty Bean, a free online magazine and newsletter focused on health and inner beauty. [www.thebeautybean.com]

What’s most meaningful to me is sparking conversation about what real beauty means. In graduate school, I was torn between wanting to work as a women’s rights activist and wanting to work in fashion and beauty. I’d suffered with an eating disorder in college and felt there was a big need in the marketplace to address the way those two spheres of my life overlapped. I ended up writing my graduate school thesis on women’s magazines and their influence on body image and eating disorders.

Restrictive eating disorders and obesity are two sides of the same coin. We’re not all born to have the same body shape. We need to recognize that and not strive for a body type we aren’t genetically determined to have. If there were one diet that worked, there would be one best-selling diet book and we’d all be healthy. On top of that, so much of the diet industry is based on the idea that once you lose weight you’ll be happy. It’s the opposite: when we’re happy, our bodies find a weight that’s right.

Part of my process of getting happy has been making sure I’m on my own to do list, not pushed aside by the business I run or anything else. But there’s only so much one person can do. What helps me is paying attention to what I’m good at and focusing on that, then finding someone else to do the things I’m not good at, like styling my hair. This makes my life calmer, gives me more time for myself, and makes me more efficient at helping to shift our ideals about beauty so they’re available to all women.

Growing up, many of us had unrealistic beauty ideals to try to live up to. Especially with the advent of air-brushing and digital manipulation, those ideals became literally unrealistic. In the same way young girls are taught what’s beautiful and what to strive to look like, young men are given those same messages about unrealistic beauty ideals. That needs to shift, too. I think all men have the ability to love all different body shapes and sizes.

We got the idea that our bodies are for others’ pleasure as objects of beauty. But it’s not how others experience our bodies that’s powerful – the power is in how we ourselves experience our bodies.

All women are beautiful. We aren’t saying that often enough.

– Alexis Wolfer

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