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Affectionately known as "America's #1 Success Coach," Jack Canfield is the originator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and a leading authority in the areas of self-esteem, achievement motivation, and peak performance. [www.jackcanfield.com]

 
Arianna Huffington Arianna Huffington political powerhouse. media mogul. author.

Arianna Huffington is the co-founder and Editor in Chief of the Huffington Post and the author of twelve books. [www.huffingtonpost.com]

 
Seth Godin Seth Godin author. speaker. linchpin.

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Krishna Kaur Krishna Kaur yogi. philanthropist. dynamic teacher.

Krishna Kaur is the founder of YOGA for Youth, a program that takes yoga, meditation, and stimulating discussions on the philosophy of yoga to urban youth. [www.yogaforyouth.org]

 
Norman Lear Norman Lear producer. philanthropist. tv legend.

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Leilani Münter Leilani Münter race car driver. activist. carbon free girl.

Leilani Münter is a professional race car driver and an environmental activist who uses her voice in the number one spectator sport in America as a catalyst for change. [www.leilanimunter.com]

 
Kevin Bales Kevin Bales Freedom Fighter. Philanthropist. Game Changer.

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Mastin Kipp Mastin Kipp Writer. Entrepreneur. Daily Lover.

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Desmond Tutu Desmond Tutu archbishop. author. peaceful leader.

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Zainab Salbi Zainab Salbi author. ceo. humanitarian.

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Sean Stephenson Sean Stephenson speaker. psychotherapist. life embracer.

Despite his physical challenges, Sean Stephenson has taken a stand for a quality of life that has inspired millions of people around the world. He's a professional speaker, psychotherapist, and author. [www.timetostand.com]

 
Kia Miller Kia Miller yogi. meditator. teacher.

Kia Miller teaches Yoga at Yoga Works in Los Angeles, leads teacher trainings, and runs retreats and workshops on meditation, chakras, pranayam, and mantras, and other practices. [www.kiamiller.com]

 
Simon Mainwaring Simon Mainwaring creator. writer. idea geek.

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Shannon Bindler Shannon Bindler Strategist. Writer. Life Coach.

Shannon Bindler is a style editor, life coach, and the co-founder of Get Up Girl, an empowerment company that inspires women to shine. [www.getupgirl.com]

 
Mathieu Bitton Mathieu Bitton Designer. Art Director. Passionate Creator.

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Jorge Perez Jorge Perez Agent. Producer. Photography Enthusiast.

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gender power

Alison Armstrong Alison Armstrong clever collaborator. supportive woman. gender applauder.

Alison Armstrong is a nationally-known educator and expert on understanding men and the CEO and co-founder of PAX Programs Inc. She created the widely acclaimed Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women workshop. [www.understandmen.com]

Men and women have the same keyboard, so we think we have the same operating system. A woman taps out something, but if she’s interacting with a man’s operating system and things completely blow up, she has no idea why. She hit the right keys, so it must not have worked because he’s a jerk or doesn’t love her enough, when it’s actually that she’s not communicating. What matters to me is ending this kind of disempowerment for men and women.

Until Ellen Hurst called me up to tell me the ways she’d seen me emasculate men, I’d assumed we women were supposed to do what I’d been doing. Men misbehaved, were of questionable moral strength, and had weird relationships to their bodily functions. If they weren’t managed, controlled, and constantly disempowered there’d be burping and farting and sperm everywhere. Ellen said, “You’re even doing it to your son.” My son was three at the time, but Ellen was right. I was trying to carve the man out of him. Ellen asked me to stop.

Every time I emasculated a man, I reinforced my own fear and weakness. I was never going to know my own power as a woman until I was willing to let men have their power as men and deal with them on a level playing field, instead of saying, basically, “Hand me your testicles and then we’ll talk.”

So I said to Ellen, “OK, I’ll stop.” In that moment, for the first time in my life, I experienced feminine power. It was beautiful and amazing. As soon as I stopped kicking their legs out from under men, my experiences with them changed. I couldn’t believe how amazing men were with me, even before I was nice to them, just because I wasn’t mean.

A woman who counts to thirty after asking a man a question, allowing him to pause and think about what else he wants to say, offers respect and honor. A man who says to his wife, “What do you need in order to be able to support me in this?” and takes her answer seriously, honors her. By doing little things like these, we end up with bigger, more generous, more loving people.

If men and women can stop disempowering themselves and each other, stop spending energy on the stupid war of misunderstanding between the genders, we can use that energy to solve all the other things that don’t work about our world.

Instead of taking each other out face-to-face, what if we stand back-to-back?

– Alison Armstrong

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