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Norman Lear Norman Lear producer. philanthropist. tv legend.

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Leilani Münter Leilani Münter race car driver. activist. carbon free girl.

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Desmond Tutu Desmond Tutu archbishop. author. peaceful leader.

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Zainab Salbi Zainab Salbi author. ceo. humanitarian.

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Sean Stephenson Sean Stephenson speaker. psychotherapist. life embracer.

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Kia Miller Kia Miller yogi. meditator. teacher.

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Simon Mainwaring Simon Mainwaring creator. writer. idea geek.

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Shannon Bindler Shannon Bindler Strategist. Writer. Life Coach.

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Mathieu Bitton Mathieu Bitton Designer. Art Director. Passionate Creator.

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Jorge Perez Jorge Perez Agent. Producer. Photography Enthusiast.

Opus Reps founder and agent-producer Jorge Perez travels the world producing photo shoots with great photographers and celebrities. He's also very involved with Meals on Wheels in Los Angeles. www.opusreps.com

 

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Amanda Enclade Amanda Enclade shadow reader. broken heart hugger. whole self lover.

Amanda Enclade is an unschooler, DIY educator, progressive parent, far-out thinker, non-conformist, foodie, lover, inventor, aromatherapist magic mixer, and healer of everyday things. [www.auntvis.com]

I always try to get to the root of things. When I get upset by everyday happenings, I dig within to see if they’re symptoms of a deeper emotional issue. I ask myself, What’s really going on here? What’s eating me up inside? I dive into the abyss of what’s happening underneath the surface.

I love the work of Carl Jung. Instead of labeling the mentally ill as broken and in need of repair, he took the time to get to know them as individuals. He was interested in what they were experiencing and what their lives were really about. He believed that mental illness is the body’s way of working through bigger issues.

I think we can learn something from that idea. We all have a dark side, a shadow self that reveals itself in jealousy, self-doubt, and criticism. Culturally, it’s not our way to look at our shadow selves. Instead, we embrace the happy self. We try to remain positive in order to survive and get through the day.

What we need to realize is that our negative places reflect the parts of us that need the most healing. Avoidance may work to some extent, but eventually those dark feeling will manifest in our lives in all kinds of ways.

It’s so important to take the time to understand and accept our dark sides. We can learn to create safety nets so we can love those parts of ourselves and treat them with compassion.

If you have a broken heart, allow yourself to have a broken heart. It’s okay to cry, listen to sad music, and be pissed off. Don’t disregard your broken heart as your negative self. Love it, allow it, and make it okay. Treat it with kindness in order to move on.

Our dark sides are part of who we are. They’re part of our daily experiences. Once we start to embrace our hurt areas, we can transform their energy into positive manifestations. We can turn hate into love, blame and resentment into forgiveness. By making room for our dark sides, we can begin to heal and create change in our lives.

Amanda Enclade

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