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Brennan Smith Brennan Smith hypnotherapist. neurophysioligist. pattern shifter.

Through his study of subconscious behavior patterns, Los Angeles hypnotherapist Brennan Smith realized that none of us is broken – we're 100% worthy of having the lives we want. [www.brennansmith.com]

I spent a lot of time trying to find ways to communicate a central idea that I thought would take anyone from where they were to where they wanted to be: the idea of universal worthiness. What I discovered is that people have an intellectual willingness to accept this, but very few people actually embody a rich, emotional, visceral sense that they’re universally worthy of having the utmost joy, accomplishment, love, and all those other good things.

One thing we all agree on is that we’re flawed. Now I spend a lot of time trying to find ways to communicate that we’re all universally, equally, and definitely flawed. This resonates. We know how many times we’ve screwed up. We know what an idiot we’ve been. By getting down into that feeling and saying, “Yeah, that’s true,” then looking at the rest of humanity and seeing that they’re equally as flawed, it’s far easier to realize what’s going on. “Hey, wait a minute,” we say. “If everybody’s goofy and flawed and idiosyncratic, then me being goofy and flawed and idiosyncratic doesn’t equate to being broken.”

This idea, that our flaws are not an aberration of our human nature and dignity, but the essence of our human nature and dignity, gets us quickly to a place of universal agreement on an emotional level. We get to communicate sooner.

When someone walks into my office, my goal as a hypnotherapist is to take everything I know about patterns of human behavior and sit with my client’s perspective. I see how they’re both universal and unique. Working with clients day in and day out, I eventually realized that I could talk universal worthiness until I was blue in the face, but it wouldn’t get results. Finally, I started saying, “Well, you’re right. You’re broken. Congratulations. You’re a human being. Where do we go from here?”

When I find myself getting off track, I don’t fight. I just sit with whatever it is. I allow the judgment, trash talk, resistance, anger, resentment, whatever. I’ve gotten to the place now where I don’t beat myself up for beating myself up.

This doesn’t make the problem go away immediately, but that’s not the goal. The goal is to get comfortable with down times being as much a part of the journey as good times. There’s a real lift that comes from doing this. There’s a shift in perspective. You come out of the experience as a person who tried. And you remain perfectly flawed. Along with all the rest of us.

– Brennan Smith

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