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Cheryl Bigus Cheryl Bigus truth seeker. voice attendant. nurturing teacher.

Cheryl Bigus works with women who've neglected their well-being. She helps women regain vitality and hotness in their lives without punishing themselves through diets of deprivation or extreme workouts. [www.naturalvore.com]

Women give and nurture, so much so that we often lose ourselves. I came dangerously close to that serious loss. I always took care of everyone, putting others’ needs ahead of my own. During a personal crisis, I lost trust in someone through a heartbreaking betrayal. I paused then, and for the first time stopped nurturing outward and started nurturing inward. In deference to others, I’d failed by stifling my own voice. I hadn’t been asking for what I needed to thrive. But if I don’t care for myself, I can’t care for others in a meaningful way.

Failure is good. Failure sparks ingenuity, spiritual awakening, survival, inner strength, and rebirth. Without failure, we tend to get lazy, never reassessing the patterns we live by or the rules that guide our actions.

I allowed my perceived failures to bury me and what I have to offer the world. I let others’ opinions hold me back from my truth. Sometimes, listening and speaking our truth doesn’t go over well with others. It can upset the status quo. My truth may be contrary, quirky, opinionated, outside the box … but it’s mine. My truth and your truth don’t have to be the same. How boring would that be?

I teach women to stop and listen to their inner voice, the intuitive whisper or scream from inside. It’s the key to true freedom. If ignored, that inner voice will fester and manifest in negative ways. If spoken and lived, we’re set free.

Now I look at my path with pride. I own it. I’m guided by what I want and where I want to go. Failure is still here, and I still visit it, hopefully with courage and humility. I’m learning to befriend failure because unimaginable gifts come from it and from letting go, from stepping out of comfort and into the unfamiliar.

I love stories about people’s successes, because when we look closely at them we see that successes always follow failures. Failure in itself is success, because it means we’ve put effort out into the Universe. The Universe will give us what we need in the moment, even if it’s failing a few times in order to get to our success.

I fail. A lot. But now I try to ask questions instead of shaming, blaming, or beating myself up. I ask myself what the experience of each failure has to teach me. What did I learn?

Cheryl Bigus

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