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Emily Montez Emily Montez writer. free mama. weirdness embracer.

Emily Montez is a mama, creator, writer, and the founder of MamaFusion: Merging Mom & Me. She believes in following God with purpose, embracing her own weirdness, and becoming the Foxy Mama she was created to be. [www.mamafusion.com]

When I became a mother, I thought my life would be full of meaning. I now had someone, a beautiful, precious, amazing someone to live my life for. Instead, I felt overloaded with chores, errands, and trying desperately to live up to the image of the mother I thought I was supposed to be.

I was such a great parent before I had kids. I’d always said that I wasn’t going to be “just a mom,” that I’d never be that woman who brought nothing to the table except spit-up and dirty diapers, that I’d remember who I was pre-kid. After I had kids, though, things didn’t turn out quite the way I expected.

I constantly felt like I was failing – not because there was anything wrong with my children, who were healthy and happy, but because I was working so hard to be something I was never meant to be. I looked around and felt surrounded by women with perfect makeup, perfect houses, and seemingly perfect lives, whereas I was happy just to be out of my pajamas and having relative peace in my life. I was stuck in a bubble. I got so caught up in what I thought my life should be that I forgot to live it.

Finally, I realized that being a good mother isn’t about having a clean house. It’s not about the bows in my girl’s hair, or matching socks. Being a good mother is about loving my girls, having fun with them, making magical memories with them. I realized that I was already the perfect mama for my girls, just by being myself. And my eyes opened to a whole new sense of meaning. 

I realized that my life truly is dedicated to being the best version of myself, so that I can be the best example to my girls. I want them to be free, to feel good about who they are, to not bend to pressure. And if I want that for them, I also need it for myself. 

Life is about embracing weirdness. It’s about understanding the unique gifts we bring to the table – and loving them. It’s about standing back up when we fall, and turning around when we realize we’ve spent the last year and half trying to live someone else’s life. Stand tall, dream big, fall often, and always stand back up. That’s what life means to this mama. 

– Emily Montez

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