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Desmond Tutu Desmond Tutu archbishop. author. peaceful leader.

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Zainab Salbi Zainab Salbi author. ceo. humanitarian.

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Sean Stephenson Sean Stephenson speaker. psychotherapist. life embracer.

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Grace Kerina Grace Kerina writer's shepherd. meaning beacon. surreal stepmama.

Grace Kerina founded The Writer's Shepherd to help people find their own words and bring their unique wisdom into the open. Her goal is to eliminate writer's block from the planet. [www.the-writers-shepherd.com]

When I was two, I wouldn’t go anywhere if my socks were wrinkled up inside my shoes, so Mom took my shoes on and off, trying to smooth those wrinkles. When I was four, Mom ironed a dress for me to wear to preschool, but I refused to wear it and she couldn’t figure out why. So while I was at school she washed and ironed all my dresses, and from then on I chose for myself what to wear. In high school, I’d get so upset when Mom came to wake me up that she bought me an alarm clock and let me work out my waking up issues for myself.

Mom knew I was different. I was born with an extra sensitive nervous system, one that processes sensory information differently. So was Mom. But we both grew up before knowing about the trait or having a name for it. Mom called me independent and stubborn and creative. She tried to help me enjoy myself and work with who I am. She gave me solid ground to stand on and reach from, by not calling the innate way I am “wrong.”

According to Elaine Aron, the scientist psychologist who wrote a pioneering book about highly sensitive people (HSPs), this innate trait is found in 15 to 20 percent of humans (and also in animals). That means you’re likely to know some highly sensing people. Or even to be one.

High sensitivity arises from a physical construction of brain and body that produces heightened reactions to all sorts of things, from textures and smells to light and sound to people and thoughts and more.

Because of the work and support of Aron and others, highly sensing people are getting proud in greater numbers. Our “flaw” is transmuting into a power. Women did it. Gays did it. Nerds did it. Now HSPs are doing it – turning a natural quality sometimes disparaged by society into something to be proud of, something valuable.

With Mom’s help, by accepting my flaw I turned it into fuel. Pain became power, pride, and community. You can do this, too: Name all the blessings in your “flaw.” Find your people. Celebrate together.

What would a pride parade look like for HSPs? Maybe a public silent meditation, or a group hike through the woods on a warm spring day, or a barefoot conga line winding along a sandy beach in rhythm with the swooshing waves.

– Grace Kerina

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