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Jamila Dawson Jamila Dawson erotic coach. sexual submissive. body listener.

Jamila Dawson works on the front lines of pleasure-based sexuality, through personal coaching and workshops. Her focus is on BDSM, polyamory, and erotic Integrity. [www.jamiladawson.com]

Lust. It’s not just the eroticism of sex. It’s being in lust with your life and letting that guide you. That’s how I’ve been guiding myself. It’s very body-based. It’s very “I want.” It’s this pull, this really erotic feeling, like a tingling almost. I trust my lust. It’s not going to steer me in a detrimental way.

When I worked at a female-owned and -operated adult store, I read a lot of books about polyamory and BDSM. I thought, Oh my gosh. This is me. This is what I want. I lust for this. It took a long time to feel comfortable saying I identify as a sexual submissive. I also identify as a polyamorous person. I’m now becoming comfortable with all of that.

For some people in the BDSM community, it’s very much about play. We go and dress up and I paddle you a little bit. For me, it’s a path of discipline and personal growth. It’s a path of sensation – not for the sake of sensation, but for the sake of connecting with someone else through sensation.

I battle with depression and I used to go numb. Now, when I have depression, I play with someone. I don’t use it to narcotize myself. I use it to move through the depression, and I feel light after I play. I feel connected on a spiritual and emotional plane, not just in my body. It’s not only about the act of sex. It’s about lust for life and the juice of life. That doesn’t have to happen through sex, although it’s a great way in.

I keep coming back to the idea of resilience. How do I cultivate a sense of resilience in myself and others? I don’t believe resilience is an innate trait. And without it, I don’t think anything else is possible. Even if you’re just going to get out of bed today, you’re still engaged in some bit of life. That’s resilience. You keep going. Not just existing, but moving toward what you want.

When it comes to sex, so many people don’t trust themselves. They’re scared to lose control. They don’t trust that they can navigate the complexity. They’re afraid of the rawness of sex. It’s not pretty. It’s not some cute little girl waving her hair around. Sex itself is raw and exquisitely ugly, and I love that.

What’s really at the core is that people are afraid to cultivate an inner sense of “I know what I want, I trust my lust, and I’ll be okay.”

– Jamila Dawson

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