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Janet Poole Janet Poole non-conformist. courageous author. extraordinary seeker.

Janet Poole is the award-winning author of How to Get Anything You Want – Just Like That!, a book that dares people to live an extraordinary life that matters. [www.janetpoole.com]

Pleasing others makes for a meaningless life.

American existential psychologist and author Rollo May said, “The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity.”

Most people like to think they’re independent thinkers, the truth is most of us are programmed from birth to fit in, please others and seek approval.

We’re in the habit of doing what’s best for everyone but ourselves.

Why do we conform?

The short answer: Survival.

This goes even deeper than the programming from your childhood. Staying in favor with the tribe goes right to your core, to your DNA. In ancient times, being cast out of the tribe meant certain death.

Today we know that’s nonsense. Subconsciously however, it’s still very real and terrifying. Most people therefore never live the life they love. They choose a safe, meaningless life within the tribe.

Life is meant to be fun and exciting. It takes courage to live a life we truly love.

If you want to wake up and gain the courage to move on from the herd mentality:

1. Study the power of your mind. You’ll learn why it’s important you choose a life you love and why it helps everyone when you do.

2. Decide what you want. What would you LOVE to do? Goals give meaning to life and enable your ultimate purpose – to create and grow. These lead to happiness.

Write a story about your dream life as if you’re already living it. What does that look and feel like? You can have that. Hold that dream.

Dream big. Make it something you truly desire, even if it’s met with disapproval from others. The urge to stay safe in the tribe is strong and persistent, but a burning desire gives us the necessary courage and determination to break free.

When we have the courage to leave behind the herd mentality, we can live magnificent meaningful lives and shine our light forward for others to do the same.

– Janet Poole

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