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Joan Shulman Joan Shulman coach. empowered introvert. green thumb.

A coach with a passion for introverts, Joan Shulman supports heart-centered professionals who love what they do but struggle to self-promote. She believes everyone possesses the innate wisdom needed to create fulfillment. [www.fullcirclelifecoach.com]

As an introvert, I know the push-pull to be someone I’m not. In a world where extroversion is lauded, I’ve learned to follow my heart on a path that celebrates fewer, deeper relationships and honors the need for quiet and rest. Realness has come to matter the most to me.

My mother was a consummate extrovert. I cringed when she dragged me across the street to introduce me to another child who could be a “nice friend” for me – the message being that I couldn’t possibly do that on my own. Looking back, it isn’t clear whether she did it for me or to soothe her discomfort about my quiet way in the world.

Earlier in my career, I’d accept invitations to attend and speak at large networking events. I did it because I truly believed it was the only way to grow a business and because I didn’t want to offend or disappoint anyone. From the outside, I appeared to be at ease, but on the inside, discomfort lurked. While I knew I had to find a way to share my work with a larger audience, I also began to acknowledge my discomfort with the cultural assumption that in order to be successful I needed to be an extrovert.

A profound time of growth came with the realization that I no longer needed to apologize – for what I’m not, for what I need, or for who I am. Aiming to please is an easy way to avoid tending to ourselves. If we make choices only to serve others, is that really compassion, or are we circumventing what needs to be done to create our own meaningful life?

My work is about empowering others to step outside their comfort zones – to stretch in ways they never thought possible. The vision I hold for others is their own – not their mother’s, the conference coordinator’s, or their coach’s.

There’s irony in that the traits of an introvert are exactly what I use to attract others to my work: my love of people and exploring the human condition, my sense of humor that makes for frequent belly-laughs, and my uncanny way of sensing truth.

I honor realness in my daily life by connecting with nature through my animals and gardens, through meaningful relationships with remarkable people, and, when time allows, by having a good nap!

– Joan Shulman

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