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Karly Randolph Pitman Karly Randolph Pitman teacher. connector. embracer.

Karly Randolph Pitman is the creator of a therapy – growing human(kind)ness – that fosters healing from eating disorders, overeating, food addictions, and suffering from weight and body image. [www.karlyrandolphpitman.com]

We all have “stuff” – stumbling blocks, painful habits, and skewed attempts at self-preservation. It’s part of this crazy gig called life.

My stuff is food and weight pain. I’ve ridden every ride in this particular amusement park. I’ve been a sugar addict, an overeater, a bulimic, a binger, a neurotic food cop, a chronic dieter, a starver, and a woman obsessed with the size of her butt.

If you’re like me and nearly every human being I know, you may have spent considerable energy burying your stuff, hiding from it, indulging in it, despairing over it, avoiding it, shaming it, blaming it.

None of these tactics bring peace.

We don’t heal our stuff by running, resisting, or fixing. We heal our stuff by turning towards it, by shining the light of compassion on all our dark spots.

When you do this – when you invite your pain in – it will blow your life wide open.

I know this is hard. We look at our stuff and believe what it says about us – that we’re unworthy, flawed, broken, hopeless, helpless.

It takes courage and a bit of audacity to examine all the evidence and say, “No. That is not who I am. I will not define myself by my stuck points.” It takes mercy (an open heart) to see past our habitual patterns to the kindness there – to see our intention to soothe life’s pain, even if on the surface it’s very, very messy.

We practice bravery when we resist the pull to run – or indulge – and instead stay. We practice humility when we embrace our very human neediness as something precious, tender, and valuable rather than something shameful. We practice grace when we hold our human neediness lightly and see beyond to the divinity underneath.

From this perspective, our stuff is not a punishment, but a gift designed to wake us up. It’s how we reconnect with our trustworthiness. It’s how we soften our identity of brokenness. It’s also the pathway to change – it loosens the habits that bind us.

Our stuff is the way to freedom. It’s how we come home. Fundamentally, it’s a journey through – and towards – love.

– Karly Randolph Pitman

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