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Kate Swoboda Kate Swoboda fear whisperer. life coach. individuality embracer.

Kate Swoboda, a.k.a. Kate Courageous, is a life coach, speaker, and writer who helps clients lead unconventional and revolutionary lives by practicing courage. She created the Courageous Play and Create Stillness retreats. [www.yourcourageouslife.com]

Recently, someone asked me about living with courage.

“How do you work with fear?” they asked, then another variation: “How do you handle XYZ? and ABC? But what about…?”

After answering a few of those questions, I noticed that my answers kept prompting another question: “Well, okay, so how do you do that?”

In that moment, I realized that I was getting caught in the trap of “how-to.”

Brene Brown, a researcher who studies shame, talks about this in her book The Gifts of Imperfection. We get caught in how-to, perpetually trying to figure out steps to happiness rather than looking at something more critical: What gets in the way of feeling happy?

So, how do I work with fear? My answer is devoid of concrete steps. I get present to it. I accept it. I work on not resisting it or hating it. I ask what stories are behind the fear. I take action despite feeling fear. I practice gentleness along the way.

If someone asked me, “So how can I accept fear? Or look at the stories? Or take action even though I’m terrified?” my response would be appropriately ambiguous. It’s a highly individual process.

The attainment of wisdom and fulfillment is something our society tries to concretize. We want to make it into a series of steps, when wisdom is beyond that. Try to avoid pain with 1-2-3-step plans? Paradoxically, we suffer more that way. The avoidance of pain is a kind of pain itself.

“Wait, so you’re saying to just accept things as they are?”

Yes. Acceptance over resistance. There’s always fear as we stretch into what is unfamiliar. The more you become comfortable with uncertainty, the less bumpy the ride will be, and that’s not some kind of esoteric hogwash.

But it’s also not all of the answer. When we aren’t putting energy into avoiding suffering, more energy is freed up to take positive action towards creating what we do want: social justice, compassion, inner stillness, radical acts of love.

– Kate Swoboda

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