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Larry Zucker Larry Zucker narrative therapist. question asker. listener.

Larry Zucker is a narrative therapist who believes in people's abilities to create – and find support for – many different and wonderful ways of showing up in relationships and community. [www.larchmontassociates.com]

What’s most meaningful to me is staying engaged in meaning-making with people. Whether I’m doing it in my work as a therapist or at a cocktail party, I enjoy making sense of things with people.

My real North Star, my guiding light, for staying in meaningful connection with people is curiosity – trying to understand what it is about the other person that’s so different from me. How does their brain work? How do they tick? What matters to them? What do they hope for? What are they actually wrestling with that’s different from what I wrestle with?

If I forget that the real fun of meaning-making is done with other people rather than in my own head, I remind myself to reignite my curiosity. I look for things I can do or ask that keep my curiosity alive. I try to figure out what I want to know more about, or who I want to know more about. What do I want to understand that I don’t already understand?

When we’re focused on what we already know, we tend to ask questions to teach rather than to learn. And when we do this, we reinforce the generalizations and taken-for-truth assumptions that obscure what’s truly unique in each person’s story. Careful attention to things we don’t yet know or understand – putting ourselves in position to learn from our conversational partners – keeps curiosity both real and subversive, in the sense that it helps the unique voice and experience of our subject emerge.

The main instrument of curiosity is the question. Asking questions involves a negotiation, since a question is a kind of intrusion. When I ask a question, I don’t presume that I have a right to an answer. I can live without an answer because, for me, the larger purpose of the question is to generate still more questions for reflection, for wonder, and for seeding the imagination. Sometimes, peoples’ responses to my questions surprise and delight me, but my favorite moments are when I see them surprise themselves: responding with knowledge they didn’t know they had, with beliefs they hadn’t fully articulated, or with plans or intentions they hadn’t committed to until they heard their own words come out of their mouths.

I must constantly fight against my tendency to secretly believe that I know everything; this only leads away from meaningfulness and into isolation and loneliness. When I catch myself drifting toward that arrogant position, I just try to be honest with myself and try to understand how it’s happened again. After all, meaningful conversations with myself are curiosity directed inward.

– Larry Zucker

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