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Leah Matalon Leah Matalon practitioner. teacher. constellationista.

Teacher, practitioner, and family constellation facilitator Leah Matalon has practiced Process Acupressure, Craniosacral Therapy, SomatoEmotional Release, and Lymph Drainage Therapy for over 25 years. [www.leahmatalon.com]

There are so many levels on which we exchange with people – some are verbal, some are physical. Underlying all is the energetics of how we exchange with another person – what we give to that person, and what we receive. Sincere relationships have a lot to do with that exchange. Within an exchange, we know when there’s a balance of giving and receiving with love and sincerity.

We’re receiving energy and messages all the time. It helps sometimes to slow down, to pause and even ponder, to tune in to what we feel and honor our feelings. That’s very important.

Honoring our feelings means that when we have a response, like hurt, we ask ourselves, “What’s going on? What is this all about?” – even if it’s not in the moment, but later. This gets us further than doing what a lot of people do, which is say, “Oh, well, I’m not going to talk to that person again because they said that,” or they go into a stony silence and cut people out of their lives.

Very often, when people ask themselves, “What’s going on?” and start to realize what their reaction is all about, they see that it’s a reaction conditioned in childhood. Habituated reactions developed in childhood are etched in our limbic system. They become part of us. Often, the things that caused a reaction are lost or forgotten, but we still have the terror or sadness or sense of isolation or whatever was part of our reaction when we were children and not protected in some way.

Rather than reacting from that place, we can allow the part of us that’s now more informed and adult to say things like, “You don’t have to be distressed here because I’m going to step in and intervene. I’m going to take care of you.”

I help people gain insight into what’s often been pushed down into the unconscious, and to bring it to consciousness so they can learn to intervene on their own behalf.

I’ve often found that when people come to really see the value and beauty and light of the child that they were, who’s still with them, it can cause a huge transformation of self-acceptance.

Those destructive behaviors and difficult emotions linked to the past can be brought to light and transformed. Through this transformation, we find a deeper, more peaceful way of being in the world.

– Leah Matalon

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