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Luke Schilling Luke Schilling daddy. faithful entrepreneur. life journey passenger.

Luke Schilling is an entrepreneur, designer, and inventor, and father of three. He is the founder of Schilling Interiors and co-founder of Everitt and Schilling Tile Co., producing tile out of reclaimed and repurposed materials. [www.eandstile.com]

When I was young, I was all about it, aka: control. How much could I make, do, and have. At twenty-four, I had it all figured out. Brand new truck, new home, and married to the woman of my dreams. I had everything under control. Or so I thought.

When my stepfather took his last breath on earth, right in front of me, it was the beginning of losing that control.  During the next three years, my wife and I endured four miscarriages, my childhood best friend and cousin died in a kayak drowning, and I was feeling the struggles of starting a new business. I was definitely losing it.

But after a few tough years, I finally regained it. My wife and I went on to have three healthy children. We built our dream home, bought a vacation home, and the business that I started, with no college education, was booming. I did it! I was back in control! Or so I thought, once again.

Enter the economic crash. As the owner of a Construction/Design firm, I had a front row seat to the show. It was a painfully slow descent. Like sand through an hourglass, everything I thought was important was slipping through my fingers. The more I desperately tried to control the situation, the more control I lost, until I lost it all.

One day, as I said goodbye to my dream home, it finally dawned on me. The more control I tried to take, the less I got to keep. So I let it go.

That freefall into faith was the best thing that ever happened to me and my family. I started over from scratch the right way – with faith in God and humility. I acknowledged that I had no real control in this journey. I was the passenger on God’s bus, not the driver. So, I decided to start enjoying the ride.

Slowly opportunities began to re-emerge, and with the help of amazingly loyal people and strong faith, I have built my business back to double its pre-crash levels. I’ve also helped with the invention of a product that has become nationally known. It re-uses and re-claims materials, and gives them new life – just like me.

I know the journey is far from over, but I now know the best thing that ever happened to me was losing it. Control that is.

Enjoy the journey.

– Luke Schilling

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