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Norman Lear has enjoyed a long career in television and film. He is also a political and social activist and philanthropist. [www.normanlear.com]

 
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Kia Miller Kia Miller yogi. meditator. teacher.

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Mike Riera Mike Riera speaker. author. parental philosopher.

Mike Riera, PhD, speaks and writes on the topic of understanding teenagers and children. [www.mikeriera.com]

Family is with us for a lifetime. They grow with us and we grow with them. They hold the perfect mirror up so we can see ourselves. I like to joke that there are two ways to attain enlightenment – one is to retreat for years and meditate nonstop, and the other is to be fully conscious as we raise our kids.

When we raise our kids consciously, we see how different they are from us, we see their struggles and their beauty. When we have strong relationships with our kids, they help us see the world from their perspective. Sometimes that’s tough, but sometimes it’s hilarious, joyful, and fun. They play out the human drama right in front of us on a daily basis. As in the Taoist tradition, it helps to be in the moment and take it for what it is.

What do I do when I see my own behavior reflected back to me through my kids? When it’s a something I like, I’m careful to let them cart it away as their own, to let it lead them somewhere else, even perhaps somewhere I wish I’d gone. When it’s something I dislike, I try to make sure my response is appropriate rather than an overreaction based on something else, like a tendency I don’t like in myself, or stress I’m feeling in my life. Our own stress can get in the way of being able to see our kids as they are.

One way I’ve found that helps with seeing kids as they are comes from my years of practicing martial arts. It’s the idea of looking with soft eyes, of looking into someone’s eyes and taking them in, seeing what’s going on right now. No judgment. Just being okay with who they are. The beauty of looking with soft eyes is that when I do it I always feel my shoulders relax and I spontaneously take a deep breath as I soak in the person I’m seeing.

What drives people crazy about teenagers is that they tell us what they see. Often, it’s something we don’t want to admit, something living in the shadows of our denial. When that happens, instead of simply saying, “You’re right,” it can be easier to say, “Don’t take that tone with me.” But we can learn, too. We can ask ourselves, using their reflection, “How can I do it better?”

A family is always evolving. That means I’m always evolving, too.

– Mike Riera

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