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Nick Kettles Nick Kettles children's author. conscious parent. blue sky thinker.

Nick Kettles' twin passions – storytelling and the quest for self-realization – have guided his career as a writer, spiritual teacher, coach, and, more recently, his experiences as a parent. [www.blueskyofhappiness.com]

Every time I find myself unable to see meaning in my life, or whenever self-awareness becomes excessive self-scrutiny, I simply need to send a loving intention to another person to become re-enchanted with the world again. 

I do this by losing myself in wishing another person happiness or self-realization. In doing so, I experience the joy that comes from remembering that my true nature is not exclusive.

Earlier in my development and my quest for self-discovery, I entertained the notion that perhaps if I did enough service I might pay off my karmic dues and escape to bliss out in a cave somewhere. Not surprisingly, this hidden agenda to escape from the rest of humanity and keep others’ suffering at arms length set up quite a lot of internal conflict.

However, since the birth of my daughters I’ve had to confront the self-absorbed part of me that wanted to stay separate. Their zest and appetite for life calls me forth to connect with many different people – some of whom share my values, but many don’t. 

I’ve discovered that the only meaningful way to connect with people is to want for them what I want for myself. By sending them the loving intention that they’re equally deserving of the happiness and self-realization I want for myself, I move beyond our differences and am able to open my heart to our common connection.

The result is not the acquisition of “spiritual merit,” but simply the pleasure of rediscovering that others also hunger for this same opening of the heart, this same connection to Other, this same sense of belonging.  

Today, I’m widening the practice, turning a ripple of loving intention into a wave by sending loving thoughts to people I don’t know and have little chance of meeting – including those in the public eye who have perhaps been vilified or harshly misjudged. What I’m finding is that the more of humanity I’m willing to wish well in this way, the deeper my sense of belonging grows.

This is the freedom I was always looking for, but which I mistakenly believed could only be found through an imaginary escape hatch out of the human experience. Of course, that’s not how the story ends. 

The ending, if there is one, comes when no one is left behind, when everyone’s right to happiness and self-realization is included.

– Nick Kettles

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