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Philip Isles Philip Isles writer. magician. recovery embracer.

Philip Isles is a writer of middle grade children's novels and teaches children magic, Lego, and video game design. He is a member of the Magic Castle and moonlights as a close-up magician. [www.philipisles.com]

“Fall down 8 times, get up 9” -Traditional Buddhist saying.

Learning to accept rejection is imperative for any writer. For anyone. One important aspect of rejection that many do not consider is recovery, which I learned about through physical fitness.

In cardio fitness, such as running or biking, performance is not only measured by how well one’s heart rate performs, but also how quickly the heart rate returns to normal. This rate of recovery after a sprint or interval is considered just as important as cardio performance during the activity itself.

About a year ago, my manuscript was submitted to a top agency, and I was waiting to hear back. There were a lot of positive indicators pointing at an offer of representation, and I allowed myself to get my hopes up. This was the closest I had ever been towards obtaining representation, and I was naturally excited.

When the agency called me, I pulled my car to the side of the road to give the agent my full attention. I was rejected. As one might expect, I took it hard, but for the first time in my life I witnessed my own process of recovery. It was a crucial, vital lesson. As I got back on the road and drove off, I felt my dashed hopes of representation slowly transition back to the love of my material.

I was startled by how quickly this transition took place in me. I expected to deal with it for days. But it was gone. I was back on the road. I realized that, much like the professional athlete training to push himself farther and farther, I had pushed my heart harder, by dealing with a bigger possibility than I had ever experienced before. My heart not only dealt with the bigger opportunity, but the hopes and dreams that came with it. It also recovered from it. This moment of recovery struck me as a key moment in my development as a professional writer and as a human being living a life of purpose.

If you can’t recover from rejection, you won’t be able to handle the next opportunities or possibilities that are coming down the road, just as that athlete wouldn’t be able to sprint again without a recovery. Recovery is just as crucial on the other, positive end of rejection: success and acceptance. If you don’t recover from success–if you don’t get back to a state of preparing for the next great sprint–there won’t be chances for greater, higher success.

– Philip Isles

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