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Breck Costin Breck Costin Coach. Leader. Truth Teller.

Pioneering seminar leader and life coach Breck Costin encourages people to realize their personal, career, and spiritual aspirations. His couples-counseling practice, BCC Associates, is based in Los Angeles. www.bccfreedom.com

PostCOSTIN

In our defense of who we are
we lose our essence.
We start fighting for our fears
and suppressing our inspirations.
In the battle to defend
we lose what we were defending.

We confuse
acting-out for adventure,
sarcasm for intelligence,
rage for self-expression,
isolation for independence,
mutual dysfunction for intimacy
ambition for creativity
rationalization for reason,
mediocrity for excellence
rebellion for exploration
compromise for resolution
force for power
stubbornness for strength.
and criticism for love.

We have commentary
in lieu of feelings,
thinking we have opinions
when in fact they have us.
And we value…
fantasy over dreams
fiction over truth
being served over serving
answering over questioning
speaking over listening
and wrongful domination over rightful surrender.

I grew up in a household where violations, disappointments,
criticism, and abuse were the order of the day.
All packaged in affluent charm.
It was what I knew, all I knew.
And it took everything I had to untangle the mess.

The more I have lost
the more I have gained.
Whatever I could not lose
owned me.
Loss and liberation go hand in hand.

I fight for the loss of what I was never meant to maintain.

I fight to discover who I am
in lieu of who I fantasized myself to be.

I listen to the world
instead of just myself.

I lost my premise
to know the truth.

I gave up my fear
to live with trust.

I lost my shame
to know love.

- Breck Costin

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